WEDDING PASTOR SHANE
WEDDING CEREMONY MANUSCRIPTS
Pia & Chris Warner
Good afternoon and welcome to this joyous celebration! We have come here today to celebrate love, family and friendship and to support Pia and Chris as they're united in marriage.
Giving of the Bride
I have a very important question to ask, "Who gives this woman to be married to this man?" (The father responds then sits down). Pastor Shane seats the guests.
Family and friends, we have come today at the invitation of Pia and Chris to share in the joy of their wedding. This outward celebration we shall see and hear is an expression of the inner love and devotion they have in their hearts for one another. They have decided to share this joyous moment with you, a moment that represents the beginning of a lifetime of love and sharing.
My name is Pastor Shane Craven and it is my privilege to be able to serve today as the Wedding Officiant.
Marriage is a celebration! A fitting quote for today comes from the Psalmist who said in Psalm 118: "This is the day the LORD has made. We will rejoice and be glad in it." (Psalm 118:24).
Marriage is a bond not to be entered into lightly; only after considerable thought and reflection. By making this commitment today, Pia and Chris relationship will become stronger, better, and deeper.
Today, Pia and Chris demonstrate their devotion to each other by dedicating themselves to a life together. And they show their respect for each other by setting forth to honor the vows they will recite. Today, their lives, which began on separate paths, will be joined as one.
Today represents not only the joining of Pia and Chris, but also the joining of their families and friends, without whose support, friendship and encouragement, they would not be here today.
Pia and Chris would like to recognize their parents on this occasion. They want to offer their profound gratitude and appreciation for all the love and care you have shown in raising them. Parents, the unconditional gifts of love and support that you have continually offered have inspired them to become who they are today, and they thank you from the bottom of their hearts. Without you, this day would not be possible.
Pia and Chris would also like to thank you, their friends, for making the long journey here and for the support you have provided over the years, in good times and in bad. During this special day, by your presence, you celebrate with them the love they have discovered with each other, and you support their decision to commit themselves to a lifelong relationship.
Heavenly Father, thank you. We know that marriage is your idea. We are grateful for this gathering; for the love that surrounds and unites us all; for guiding our paths and giving meaning to our lives; for the peace granted us this day; for the hope with which we expect tomorrow, and especially for the special love between Pia and Chris that brings us here at this moment!
We ask for your blessing upon Pia and Chris and this new home being established. We pray that your love will be a shield for Pia and Chris. When joy comes, may they share it together. When sorrow threatens, may they bear it together. In gladness or in tears, in sunshine or rain may they ever draw closer to each other and nearer to you. In your name we pray, amen.
Reading #1: The Velveteen Rabbit (Excerpt) by Margery Williams
"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"
"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but really loves you, then you become real."
"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.
"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are real you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"
"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get all loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
The incredible journey of the butterflies is an analogy of the incredible journey of Pia and Chris. The monarch butterfly migrates over 2000 miles each year from Canada through the United States and ultimately to Mexico. Chris and Pia experienced this migration first hand as they visited the Monarch Grove Sanctuary in Pacific Grove. In a similar way, Chris migrated over 2000 miles when he traveled from Michigan to California to find his true love, Pia.
Id like to highlight 3 symbolisms from the butterfly and apply them today to your marriage: Love, Soul and Transformation.
In Chinese culture two butterflies flying together are a symbol of love. Love is the foundation of any marriage. Love is not just a feeling. The idiom, I have butterflies in my stomach speaks of nervousness but true love is not just a quiver in the liver but is a commitment that is demonstrated through ones actions. Love is a verb. Love is patient, love is kind. It is not self-seeking but seeks what is best for the other person. The more we give of self, the richer we become in soul; the more we go beyond ourselves in love, the more we become our true selves and our spiritual beauty is more fully revealed. In marriage we are seeking to bring one another into fuller life. Commit yourselves to the way of generous love.
In many cultures, including the Japanese and Mexican cultures, the butterfly is associated with the soul. The Ancient Greek word for "butterfly" is psyche, which literally means soul. In Greek myth, Psyche is represented in the form of a butterfly. Befittingly, Psyche is forever linked with love as she and Eros (the Greek god of love, also known in Roman myth as Cupid) shared an endlessly passionate bond together both hopelessly in love with the other.
Pia and Chris, may you become soul mates. May you drink deep from the well of friendship and become great friends. Its been said, Its easy to leave a spouse but its hard to leave a friend.
Overwhelmingly, cultural myth and lore honor the butterfly as a symbol of transformation because of its impressive process of metamorphosis. Transformed from a caterpillar who sheds its skin, to a chrysalis stage, and then to a butterfly. Imagine youre crawling around as a worm and then take a nap and now you have wings and can fly! The butterfly is a new creature. All traces of the caterpillar are gone. The old is gone, the new has come. In its place is now a butterfly with wings that can FLY!
Pia and Chris, your marriage is a transformation from your two lives into one. May you sore to higher levels together than you ever could alone.
Pastor Dave's Tips for a Healthy & Happy Married Life Together:
1. Never go to be angry Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. (Prov. 15:1). Its been said, To err is human, to forgive is divine. Forgive each other as God has forgiven you.
2. Keep a good sense of humor. "A cheerful heart is good medicine." (Prov. 17:22).
3. Be Kind to one another - Love is kind (1 Corinthians 13:4-8). Make each other the recipient of daily kindness. Be generous with compliments. Each of you can, by your tenderness toward each other, kind words and thoughtful actions, make your marriage and your home an uplifting refuge.
4. Communicate, communicate, communicate!!! Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. (James 1:19).
5. Continue to build your relationship Chris, date your wife! Its been said, "If there was more courting in marriages there would be fewer marriages in court!" I really believe that's true!! Love and respect one another and have fun together!
3 Things I Love About You
3 Things Chris Loves About Pia:
1. HER TRUSTWORTHINESS - Pia is everyone's best friend. She is loyal and devoted to friendship. She always has my back and looks out for me. I trust her with my happiness.
2. HER NAME - I love her name. MARIA PIA ALTAVILLA. It's rhythmic!
3. HER INTELLECT - Pia is an intellectual equivalent. She's constantly improving. We sharpen each other like iron sharpens iron!
Pia's nickname is the "Black Mamba" from the movie Kill Bill. She is Chris' equal.
3 Things Pia Loves About Chris:
1. HIS PASSION - Chris is very passionate.
2. HIS LOYALTY - Chris is very loyal.
3. HIS PERONALITY - Chris has a strong personality. I love his guns! His arms!
Reading #2: The Art of Marriage by Wilferd A. Peterson
A good marriage must be created.
In the art of marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating
gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
Chris and Pia: To symbolize and celebrate the blending of your two lives into one, I invite you to perform the Wine Ceremony.
The couple proceeds to the table and each takes an individual carafe and pours some wine into the larger carafe. The Groom then takes the larger filled carafe with the combined wine and pours some in a glass for the Bride. The Bride then takes the larger carafe with the combined wines and pours some into a glass for the Groom. He may now toast his Bride with, To our lives together and drinks from the glass. The Bride then toasts the Groom with the same.The couple places the wine glasses back and turn back to the officiant, who states:
This ceremony represents your two individual lives, combined like the two wines into one single life. The drinking of the combined wine signifies the commitment you now make to live your lives as one family. May you remember this day of commitment you have sealed with drinking of the new wine joining your lives as one.
Exchange of Vows
Chris: "I Chris, take you Pia, to be my lawfully wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, in good times and in bad, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish from this day forward till death do us part."
Pia: "I Pia, take you Chris, to be my lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, in good times and in bad, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish from this day forward till death do us part."
Exchange of Rings
Pia and Chris will now exchange their rings.
Chris: "With this ring, I seal my promise, to be your faithful and loving
husband, as God is my witness."
Pia: "With this ring, I seal my promise, to be your faithful and loving wife, as God is my witness."
Pia and Chris, you have come before God, family and friends and shared your vows of love and devotion and sealed those vows through the giving and receiving of rings.
It is now my privilege and pleasure as a minister of the gospel and as one so authorized by the State of California, to pronounce you husband and wife. What God has joined together, let no man or woman put asunder.
Chris, you may now kiss your bride.
According to an American Indian Legend ... If anyone desires a wish to come true they must first capture a butterfly and whisper that wish to it. Since a butterfly can make no sound, the butterfly cannot reveal the wish to anyone but the Great Spirit who hears and sees all.
In gratitude for giving the beautiful butterfly its freedom, the Great Spirit always grants the wish. So, according to legend, by making a wish and giving the butterfly its freedom, the wish will be taken to the heavens and be granted. We have gathered to grant this couple all our best wishes and are about to set these butterflies free in trust that all these wishes will be granted.
Family and friends, I now present to you for the first time, "Mr. and Mrs. Chris and Pia Warner."